current dangers of arranged marriage system in india

current dangers of arranged marriage system in india

I'm going to talk about some of the grave dangers presented by the arranged marriage system of India, in the light of knowledge gained from The Dating Dictionary. Several Indian men (and their well---meaning parents and families) are hopelessly ignorant of the truth, and it's about time the awareness is spread among as many people as possible with a sense of urgency......

The institution of arranged marriages might have worked really well during the ancient times, but presents too many dangers today because of some changes in Indian law.

- Section 498A of the Indian Penal Code (enacted by Indira Gandhi in 1983), commonly known as the "dowry law", allows the wife to accuse the husband (and any of his relatives, both male and female; and EVEN EX-husband) of physical or mental cruelty to her with a view to obtain money or assets from her family.

The law was created with supposedly good intentions, but the main problem is that the accused party is held GUILTY UNTIL PROVEN INNOCENT of a CRIMINAL offense. (The Indian constitution DOES NOT guarantee a Right to Fair Trial!!!)

- In 2006, the same Indian government had also enacted a "Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act", commonly known as DV Act, which allows the woman the accuse her husband / live-in boyfriend / ex-husband / live-in ex-boyfriend(!!!) and any of his relatives or friends of domestic violence. And once again, the accused party is held GUILTY UNTIL PROVEN INNOCENT of a CRIMINAL offense.

The website http://www.498a.org/ provides more details, information and facts about this "legalized terrorism".

It is a well-known fact that the two laws have been RAMPANTLY ABUSED by Indian mercenaries, gold-diggers, man-haters, users and feministas. But these are invariably under-reported by the media for various reasons.

Most of the court cases related to 498A or DV Act were dragged on for many YEARS, at the end of which, 98% of the accused people were eventually acquitted!!!!!

But no one even seems to care about the degree of mental agony, distress, depression, pain and LOSS OF REPUTATION that these men had to endure; apart from MAJOR career and professional setbacks caused by the misery.

Some of the innocent husbands were living in USA or other nations, and knew about the "legalized terrorism". Hence, they refused to go to India due to the fear of harassment from Indian police. And because of this, the Indian government decided to issue RED CORNER NOTICES through Interpol asking for extradition of these people. Hence, they are now being branded as "international criminals", simply based on the word of an evil-minded woman!!!!!!

Some of these men eventually went to India to fight the case and got acquitted by the Indian Supreme Court. However, EVEN after these men were acquitted, the Indian government did NOTHING to withdraw the red corner notices. Hence, these red corner notices remain active EVEN after the innocence has been PROVEN......talk about government-sponsored terror of the worst order!!!!

The above facts should convincing enough to understand why the institution of arranged marriages becomes EXTREMELY RISKY for the Indian male:

The arranged marriage system offers NO GUARANTEE that the woman he marries is a Flexible Giver with Integrity (a man can be happy in the long run ONLY with a Flexible Giver with Integrity).

The boy's parents usually look for a girl from the same religion and/or caste, a "good family background" (which means that her father is professionally well-off) and "with good education", but do absolutely NOTHING to ascertain whether she is a Flexible Giver with Integrity (and an Asset rather than a Liability).

If he gets caught with a Mercenary, Gold-Digger, Man-Hater, User, Cheater, Feminista, or a woman with psychological problems (such as bipolar personality disorder), he can EASILY become an innocent victim of 498A or the DV Act.

And the amount of pain that awaits him (which might even include imprisonment) due to all this can rightfully be termed HELL ON EARTH !!!

Now, on the positive side, a woman that is a Flexible Giver with Integrity (FGI for the sake of convenience) and has an Interest Level (IL for the sake of convenience) of over 95% WILL NOT CHEAT and WILL NOT ABUSE Section 498A or the DV Act. In fact, if someone does charge him with 498A/DV (the Indian Penal Code also allows other people to charge him and absolves them of all liabilities......talk about legalized terrorism again!!), this woman will go ALL OUT to defend him, because HIS happiness is uppermost in her mind. Isn't that wonderful guys?!!

The most important factor in the relationship is a woman's romantic level of interest to you psych majors she has to be sincere, and since women do the choosing they are much pickier than men as to what their type is, plus it is easy to fall in love, but very hard to stay in love due to the fact that most men --- 90% of them --- lower a woman's romantic level of interest reeeally quickly due to their deportment, to you psych majors --- their behaviour, attitude, and the way they handle women.

Most men make three main mistakes: ---

Coming on too heavy, too soon.
Never standing up and saying no, when appropriate.
Being Jealous and possessive

ofcourse there are thousands other blunders that men make but those are the top three... so if a woman could crossexamine a man's attitude for at least two years she would dump men who are not keepers and find one that she could stay in love with. Once a woman's romantic level of interest falls below 51% it can never be salvaged, it's like the rubber band has been broken, so she is with you until you become too repulsive for her to stay with you any longer --- that is when she files a false 498A case against you, but her heart is not with you, which means that she cheats either physically or mentally, and the man cheats because he is miserable and goes to a prostitute and gets AIDS and infects his wife with it. Low Interest Level means she has headaches whenever you want to have physical intimacy with her. Low Interest Level means she commits the cruel and unusual crime of nagging which drives you insance. Low Interest Level means that she is inconsistent which attacks your comfort level. Low Interest Level means that she doesn't respect you. If that is what you want --- support the Indian mate selection process!!!

The second most important factor in a relationship is a woman's Attitude, she has to be a flexible giver with Integrity, an FGI. A woman's attitude is separate from her romantic level of interest. A high Interest Level is important but insufficient to make a man happy over the long haul or even short term!

The bottom line is that a woman that is a Flexible Giver with Integrity (FGI for the sake of convenience) and has an Interest Level (IL for the sake of convenience) of over 95% WILL NOT CHEAT and WILL NOT ABUSE Section 498A or the DV Act. In fact, if someone does charge him with 498A/DV (the Indian Penal Code also allows other people to charge him and absolves them of all liabilities......talk about legalized terrorism again!!), this woman will go ALL OUT to defend him, because HIS happiness is uppermost in her mind. Isn't that wonderful guys?!!

The FGI with over 51% IL is the kind of woman EVERY single Indian male should strive to deserve and make her want to keep him lfor ife. I would also suggest that the single men attach only SECONDARY importance to the woman's religion and caste. The trick is to epitomize the male strength traits discussed and they will compete for you.

This is because of a very fundamental fact: An FGI woman with IL > 95% will not even hesitate to change her religion for her man !!!

The "FGI-95" will also stop eating meat and become a vegetarian for him if that's what he needs! Because HIS happiness is what matters to her the most! Makes sense?

However she will do it because of her high romantic level of interest in you and her flexibility, if you break up she may revert to her old bad habits. You have to remember that you also want a woman with integrity, and a woman with integrity wouldn't eat meat in the first place, so I personally recommend dating only Digambar Jains --- to you psych majors it's a sect within Jainism which is in line with authority masculism whose adherents also consider all living beings equal with respect to the value of their lives. But just because she is a Digambar Jain doesn't mean she has a high Interest Level in you or she is a flexible, although the odds of her being a giver with integrity are higher than other religions. You will learn from us to perform love tests to gauge a woman's romantic level of interest and flexibility so you will never be fooled again!!!

Here are a few just off the top of my head,

1. does she laugh at your corny jokes? approach her with a corny and funny pick up line and if she laughs chances are she is flexible. if she gets uptight than run for your life.

2. when you ask her name and than wait silently for her to ask yours does she? if not she is probably not interested or she has bad manners or she is not sincere --- the bottom line factor says any one of those is equally bad so you don't need to think which one it is --- just next her immediately

3. you ask her ///what's your home phone number/// if she hesitates or says anything other than a no which women usually don't say because they are afraid that you will get uptight, but not an enthusiastic yes, she has either low interest level or she is not flexible --- again both are terribly toxic, so don't waste even a second of your time or sanity on this woman, just say something polite so as not to look like you are only interested in one thing, which you should be by the way, like ///nice talking to you/// and move on to a new adventure!!!

4. the kiss test. you do this on the second big date. short coffee date doesn't count, when you have some time in with her. she turns her cheek --- she is out. don't waste your time, if she had a high interest level and was flexible she would be scared to disappoint you. but this test should be performed at the end of the date in a privaete place --- affection is privaete, like her door step, in order to give accurate results, always show class.

5. you keep your hands to yourself on dates except for chancing which to you psych majors is having a very very good excuse to touch her like helping her play something or holding her hand to cross the street. just holding hands is very low class. the test is that if she has a high interest level she will also chance you less overtly, like tapping you on the army, brushing herself against you as if by accident, bumping her leg into yours, these physical buying signals should get mre and more intense as she starts to chase you as her romantic level of interest rises. if you do as i said here and she doesn't tap your hand at least once per date she has a low interest level and is just using you because she is either bored, wants to spend your money, wants to meet someone else through you, or just has too low of a self esteem to say no.

6. she should never ask you to call back to confirm because it is disrespectful to you as it means that she assumes you have no other social life, plus she always does it at the last minute --- even more disrespectful, plus the reason she does it is because she is keeping you as backup in case her other date does not show up

7. she should laugh at your corny jokes. it's not what you say it's who says it that matters. women with a high level of rimantic interest find even the lamest jokes of the man they worship hilarious.

8. she should never be more than thirty minutes late for the date and if she ever breaks the date that is a relationship felony. women with a high intereste level never ever break dates. you are the love of her life or should be. dating presupposes that both parties are romantically interested in one another.

9. she should always either accept the date or counteroffer if she is busy. no counteroffer or excuses means low interest level.

10. she should be consistent in these behaviours and they should get stronger and stronger as time goes by if you do everything as we tell you.

11. she should make it easy for you. women with a low interest level make it hard for men. it's already hard because you are doing all the aggression. women with high interest levels help men, including heloping to keep the conversation going by giving longer answers which you can use to build new questions or jokes on. this will be very noticeable. uninterested women give curt or even monosillabic answers.

12. she should not be pushy but she should be teasing you about you asking her out for a weekend --- mercenaries --- women who go out with men to spend their money never do that. likewise if you dated her long enough she should be hinting at becoming boyfriend and girlfriend or even husband and wife. in other words sh should be proposing to you! a gentleman does not propose he raises a woman's romantic level of interest to the stratosphere where she loses her head and starts proposing, and than you stall for a while and deliberate if she is the right girl for you and if you are ready for a comitted relationship or else tell her you still want to play the field.

remember though women are professionals at romantic relationships and testing is an old trick to them --- so expect to be tested and don't take it personally, don't compensate, don't do labour for her, say no when appropriate, don't ever brag because it isn't confident, don't ever gossip about your exes, they will test to see if ou are discreet, don't get uptight, she wants to see if you are easily irritated, and many more and basically exemplify male attitude strength traits so you are invincible, but women can test very subtly so always be on top of your game and think before you open your mouth --- is this going to raise or lower her romantic level of interest???

Now, what does it take to attract the FGI-51 (FGI with 51% IL or more) and turn her into FGI-95 ?

Confidence + Challenge + Control!

Confidence = Self-Confidence + Self-EsteemSelf-Confidence = Faith in oneself and "product knowledge" of life in general and especially women in particular, and is manifested in HUMOR, CLASS --- which is being bold and assertive and not apologizing for being a man, and the most important --- the guts to CLOSE --- to you psych majors --- ask her for her home phone number, go for the kiss, when you drop her off at her doorstep, without asking permission. Confidence is entertwined with Challenge because a Confident man is laid back, he doesn't give ultimatums like the insecure macho boy, he wouldn't lift a finger, because he knows that he "owns" the woman by tricking her into thinking that it is her idea to chase him, and many more things which we will talk about later!!! A confident man doesn't take rejection personally because he knows that beauty is in the eye of the beholder and women do the choosing.

Self-Esteem = How highly one values oneself, how much one cares for the opinions of people with low Interest Levels in him, how fast a man says the word NO when appropriate. A man with a high Self---Esteem loves rejection and knows that if a woman rejects him, if he did everything according to the system of loveology, it is her loss, and she just did his dirty work for him.

Control = Patience + Self-Discipline + Self-Control --- patience entertwines with confidence because it comes from understanding the fact of life that women are by nature more passionate than men, but fall in love slowly, so he just has to outwait her. It also means that he does not lose his temper over small things remembering all the wonderful things that that woman does for him when the relationship is in the advanced stage. Self---Control means that you don't act impulsively and instead of doing the instinctive thing you do what will raise the woman's Interest level, like being secure and taking other men's staring at your hottie as a compliment to your taste, also never let anyone see you bleed, never let her know she got to you, in short be glib and classy, but with a Backbone! And Self---Discipline means that you do those things that raise a woman's romantic level of interest consistently. Remember you never lose until you give up, and you have to love rejection by realizing that dating is a numbers game and everyrejection or bad candidate gets you one closer to an acceptance or a good candidate. It means you don't whine or and drag your feet but have faith in the techniques of loveology and don't give up at the first obstacle you encounter like most losers would. It also means you study the materials on Club Kam daily because if you don't use it you lose it, and discipline entertwines with confidence because you have to have the discipline to make a girl laugh, make some small talk, and ask her directly for her home phone number no matter how you feel inside --- all she cares is how she feels about you and she loves a disciplined man.

Challenge = How difficult it is to win you over. Women value what they cannot have. Challenge is playing hard to get. But you have to be passive aggressive because it is a man's job to risk rejection, to ask a woman out, to pick her up at her home, to entertain her on the date, make her laugh et cetera. The man is an agressor but the gentleman is a passive agressor, while doing all those things he does not talk about the future, he does not touch the woman unless it is to cross the street or to show her how to bawl or play mini golf et cetera --- in other words there must be a pretext, he does not talk about sex and when she brings it up he playfully leads away from the subject, he is closed, but not uptight, he avoids disclosing personal information by giving a woman humorous answers every time she asks him a question that is too personal. Challenge intertwines with Self---Esteem, because a subdividion of Self---Esteem and perhaps the most important male strength trait is backbone --- no matter how many times she nags he gives her a humorous answer. He never tells her he loves her because women want to wonder if the man they are interested in likes them or not, if a man is an open book she loses respect for him. He does not set up a date on another date. He does not ask her out for a weekend date until she presses the issue. Mystery is Challenge. Also Challenge is slight detachment, the man has to disappear and call the woman from between five and nine dates again making her wonder what he is doing and why he is not desperate like all the other losers. These things and others eventually get the woman to chase the gentleman and here is where he gets to play hard to get which is playful teasing. The challenge has always to be humorous, romance is very light, and this way she will never get bored.

Women who are missing out on romance are living in hell. Constant arguments, drama, headaches, arterial sclerosis --- to you psych majors the hardening of arteries, toxic relationships, guilt, joyless cheating on their so called partner, boredom, vulgarity, and internet time wasting just to get away from someone they find repulsive is their lifestyle just to list a few items.

Romance is playful, loose, and light so serious uptight women need not apply. As they say angels are in heaven because they take themselves lightly... Well ninety percent of women exist just so we can have a pleasanter time with the other ten percent.

Challenge is also the kryptonite to the most dangerous creature in the world: The Beautiful Woman!!! In fact it is any woman's kryptonite. But if you want a hottie you need to be a challenge. They even respond positively to dominance because everybody is at their back and call. But who wants a beautiful woman anyway, most of them are so spoiled, they can't even do a pushup. Remember beauty is a short lived tiranny which is skin deep while attitude makes a woman beautiful even in her old age shining through and it is to the marrow of her bones. Ofcourse it is not impossible to find a beautiful woman with a high level of interest who also is a flexible giver with Integrity, but you can't keep her without our techniques.

And finally, what does it take to MAINTAIN the IL of an FGI over 95% after you have dated her for nine dates and she has earned you proving herself to have a higher romantic level of interest in you than your other four dates?

Affection + Respect + Romance + Humor. This is a very simple outline of the principles but there is really a LOT to be learnt when you delve into these principles and study them in detail!!! See you at Club Kam!!! And remember --- each woman is practice for the next, just try not to repeat the same mistakes from woman to woman, which is by the way the biggest mistake men make.